Overthinking is something I never really noticed at first.
It felt normal to think about things again and again.
But slowly, I realized that it was not just thinking… it was something more.
It was like a silent battle inside my mind.
I used to overthink small situations — what I said, how I said it, and what others might be thinking about me. Even simple conversations would stay in my head for hours.
I kept replaying moments again and again.
It became exhausting.
One thing I noticed about myself was that I could never say “no” to people.
Whenever someone asked me to do something, I would just say “yes” — even if I didn’t want to. I always felt that if I refused, they might feel bad.
But after saying “yes”, I would start overthinking.
I kept asking myself — “Why did I agree?” “Did I do the right thing?”
And then it didn’t stop there.
Whenever I started overthinking, all the past bad experiences would come back into my mind. All the moments where things went wrong, all the mistakes I made — everything would come together at once.
And that made my overthinking even worse.
There were times when I couldn’t focus on anything, because my mind was already busy creating unnecessary thoughts. I started imagining problems that didn’t even exist.
And without any real reason, I would feel stressed and anxious.
That’s when I understood that overthinking is not harmless.
It slowly affects your peace.
So, I decided to make a change.
I started giving myself small breaks from my thoughts. I distracted myself with things I enjoy — like music, or focusing on something productive. I also reminded myself that not everything needs an explanation or a reaction.
Some things are better left as they are.
I also started learning to say “no” when needed. Because not every situation needs a “yes”, and not every person will feel bad the way we think.
Slowly, I began to let go.
I accepted that I cannot control everything, and it’s okay if everything is not perfect.
Now, I still overthink sometimes… but I don’t let it control me anymore.
Because I’ve learned one important thing:
The biggest battles are not always visible.
Sometimes, they are happening quietly inside our mind.
And learning to win that silent battle… is what truly matters.
Name : Parvati Tiu
Roll no : 29
Sem : 3
Department: MCVP Department
Gossner College, Ranchi
